And when i read this article, alot of thoughts flooded in...
http://m.todayonline.com/commentary/why-my-wife-stay-home-mum
Since I was young, I had the dreams to get married and have my own kids, I've always had this illusion to be at home, taking care of my kids, and bringing them to school, cooking for them and the hubby, do house chores... just like what my mum did. I was brought up in this type of environment where my mum was a housewife, taking care of our every needs. My dad owns a small business, steady income, so there's not much to worry in terms of financial wise.
As I grew up, knew and accepted the living standards in my homeland, I started to realise that my dreams of being a stay-home-mum is going away.
I still have to go work, at least to earn for my money, to buy the things that I want and need, to fork out a bit for the family expense, and majority goes to Manfred's toys. But having kids stop me from moving upwards in my career. I don't want to be a career woman, those who work day to night, night to day, and have to travel regionally, or night entertainments every day, every week. Yes, they could earn alot. They could earn themselves expensive cars, big houses, branded clothes, but emptiness in the heart. How much quality time do they have for their kids? How much time can they afford to listen to their kids?
Yes, I have no dreams to earn the sky. So long as what I am earning is comfortable for me to be able to buy my stuff, and the hubby has no big burden to pay for my expenses or the family's expenses. So long as I can still have some time for Manfred everyday. Sometimes I feel guilty when I reach home late, and I didn't have any time with him. I so look forward to see those cheeky and happy smiles and laughters from him, after work. Nothing else can come any closer.
Recently, I bought a 42cm tall minion toy doll for him and he was like having so much fun wrestling with it and we really had good laughs over that. Last night when I reached home, I asked for a big hug, and he dashed across to hug minion. So cute and cheeky can! And then we played catching with hubby piggy-backing him. We ran in and out of the rooms, and the boy was laughing so so hard. Then it just double assured me that, its not about how big the house you're living in, it's the laughters and fun the family enjoys in a cozy (small) space we call home. I'm always not very concern about how big or small our house is. But in years to come, when the hubby progresses in his career, and sees his friends/colleagues staying in private property, just worried that he can't resist the temptation. Or like, its a "face-thing"? *shrug*. I always believe Every families have a story to tell, and so you can't judge by the cover.
Coming back to the topic, I'm working towards the aim to be a work-at-home mum. So, I can still earn my share of income, and have MORE time with Manfred, and to do the house chores. Meaning, I still need manfred at the babysitter's, while I need some concentration to work from home. After I'm done with work, chores and cooked dinner, I can bring Manfred back early. I can still teach him homework, he can still eat home cooked dinner. How nice would that be. No big income, just enough for me to spend (comfortably) and save up for rainy days.
That's why I'm being active in my blog again, this being the first step.
I don't have any concrete solid plans yet. But still working on it. Any mummies working from home, have any tips to share? I really really need some of those tips.
Everything is dispensable, except Family. It's always the number one in my list, especially my kids. Don't expect anything in return from the kids, and you'll enjoy parenting as much as You should. :)
If i were to start a shop, what should it be selling?
If I were to provide a service, what would it be?
If I were to....
I need help. sos.
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