拿著手上的髒衣服 正走向洗衣機的方向 才醒覺我已經有人幫我做家務了 我在幹嘛？突然好失落喔 是怎樣啦！矛盾的女人。自已掏腰包請了女傭 可是又捨不得家務事給了別人做。真是的。雖然我還是很 很 很 堅持孩子還是得由我和他們daddy兩手包辦。從泡奶 玩樂 學習 換尿片 沖涼 他們爹娘來就好了。雖然現在很堅決。可是以後事 誰能說呢。喔 我的「不放手」原來就是為什麼我請了女傭還是這樣忙的原因。曾經 我說過 生了孩子 然後又24小時都推給女傭照顧 那是生來幹嘛？有空才伸手過去玩一玩到最後 泡個奶都有問題 或是根本沒辦法一個人帶寶寶出去 喔 是怎樣？我很堅持說 我不需要女傭。放工後 我還是可以自己帶孩子！可是有兩個小孩年齡相差不到兩歲的把拔瑪嘛會知道 這不是開玩笑的 是會崩潰的累。做了一整天的工 有時還得看上司的臉色 帶了孩子回到家裡 已經8點多。晚餐都還沒解決。先弄好孩子 幫他們洗澡 餵奶 玩玩一下 轉一下 吓！已經十點了。晚餐還擱在餐桌上 沒動過。再哄完他們睡。。11點。晚餐 都冷了 吃兩口 我就請垃圾桶先生當宵夜了。吼 我一天的晚餐省省吃可以吃一個禮拜喔 （所以當很多人問我生了第二個很快瘦下來的原因是。。。）然後 吃完晚餐。。11點多開始做家務事 洗衣 掃地 抹地。有時後 工作還得帶回家做 累～ 然後 漸漸的 兩夫妻 就越來越遙遠 好似不認識對方了 我們只是「工作夥伴」一起分擔孩子和家務事。睡同張床 卻 像相隔 太平洋 累完了 工作 孩子 家務 都是罢著一張沒表情的臉。週末也是忙著帶孩子 根本沒有屬於我們兩個人的時間。之前只有老大的時候 還可以偶爾放在他大伯家 或二舅母家 一下子 我們偷溜去看戲什麼的。可是現在兩個的時候 哪好意思。我們自己都忙不過來 不可能 期望別人可以輕鬆看帶一下。坦白說 如果 孩子的爺爺奶奶公公婆婆都是退休人士 在家閒著 那 當我們想去吃個飯或看個戲的時候 可以把兄弟一人放一邊 看帶一下的話 我大多就不會請女傭了。還是很不習慣 家裡多了個人 更不習慣小米粉跟女傭同房睡 可是我們房間太小啦 擠不進4個人！雖然 有人幫我燙衣服了！（這可能是我請幫手最快樂的事）雖然我的廁所真的香了很多 雖然我家的地上 走起路來真的有 「咿～伊」的聲音 。。。就好吧 希望是好的吧 可是 孩子還是我自己負責。就算是說得太早也罷。雙溪動物的我 矛盾喔。
讓我回去職場做多幾年，讓我去看看市場 可以在家做些什麼 有份收入 那我就可以在家帶孩子了！我很希望可以親手帶孩子 我只是不喜歡伸手要錢。可以說是自尊問題。所以不可以沒有收入。
ps
我相信很多嘛咪跟我身同感受。
Wednesday 24 December 2014
Thursday 11 December 2014
The boys update!
OMG.. how time flies. Mitchell will be 7 months in a few days!
He is weighing 9.5kg (yup, above 95 percentile) - this weight should be his 9th month weight in fact. He is "standing" tall at 69cm. Good, said the doctor. (which has now become our family doctor - Dr Choi from Prohealth Fernvale)
Initially we brought him to a Polyclinic for his vaccination, but after just one time, I had regretted. Even though it's heavily subsidised at polyclinics, but its not what I would want for my child. The jab was done as if Mitchell was part of a factory assembly line. It's like a Jab-n-Go thing. The doctor who was supposed to do assessment on Mitchell did it in a very "bo-chup" manner. I really don't like. Or maybe, Manfred had his vaccinations and assessments at a ptd PD - things were really different, so I was quite disappointed when I took Mitchell to a polyclinic. Ok, maybe I didn't manage my expectations well enough. I had never missed vaccinations for Manfred, as the PD's clinic would call and remind me. Yes, it wasn't cheap, but I have to say, "It's all worth it". But Mitchell, he was late for all his vaccinations. He should be half done with all his vaccinations by 7 months, but he is oh-so-late, sigh, partly also due to we had forgot about it, and no follow-up reminders from polyclinic.
So on Monday, I took Mitch and his health booklet to Prohealth Fernvale to see Dr Choi. He also commented that Mitch had missed quite a bit of vaccinations, but it's ok, we will make up for those we have missed. So he wrote me a schedule like what vaccinations and when Mitch would be taking, moving forward. At least it gives me, as a mummy some consolation and assurance. And the best thing was Dr Choi was so gentle with the jab, Mitch didn't whine a bit. Compared to the one he took at the polyclinic, he cried out loud - I know he would, when I saw how the 'missy' stabbed him. :( I remembered when Manfred had his jabs with Dr Lillian, he did NOT cry at any of his vaccinations. When he had his last dose of vaccination by 2 years old, it was done at polyclinic, he cried. :(
So, I conclude that I'm going to pump in more money for Mitch's vaccinations. He's going for jabs the in Jan and Feb to make up for those he had missed.
And for Mitch's growth update:
- He can sit for a short while before falling sideway. The doc did mention that bigger size babies tend to take a little longer for them to really sit by themselves. ;P
- He is taking cereal daily 2x a day.
- He can read our lips and make the sound we are making (sometimes)
- Not crawling, but definitely rolling and turning. He fell from our bed last night! Mike said he had placed him in the centre of the bed, and he was on the floor yelling in like 3 minutes. :( I told this incident would not happen again after Manfred's roll off the bed incident 2 years ago, I was wrong. It happened AGAIN.
- And we are putting him in the high chair when we have dinner outside, he is happier compared to sitting in the pram.
- And then I just realised that Mitch is a kangaroo baby more than a pram baby. I could go gai-gai for hours when he is in a carrier. But when he is in the pram, he whines, shouts, cries. OMG. When in the carrier, he would sleep when he is tired and just cling close to me when he is awake. :) My lil koala baby.
- He's still taking morning nap (right after his morning feed), then one more in the noon, and a short one in the early evening.
- By the way, Dr has just diagnosed him with sensitive nose, so would be better off without aircon. But coz Mitch sleeps in his zippy every night and nap, it would be too warm to sleep without aircon, so I'm still thinking how.
- He bites anything. ANYTHING AT ALL.
- Teething crankiness!
- The throw and knock anything stage is here, by the way.
As for Manfred's development (29 months):
- He is trying to speak in full sentences
- I'm trying to teach him Cantonese too, i hope he can at least learn ONE dialect.
- He is definitely in his terrible twos stage but he can be absolutely adoring sometimes. Sigh. This contradicting stage
- The hard approach doesn't work on him, the soft approach is more useful. But having said that, it means PATIENCE.
- He loves chicken rice, as much as he LOVES ANIMALS. Im pretty impressed that he knows 90% of the animals in his animal book and he LOVES the zoo of course. We could just sign up for zoo members soon~!
- Weight wise, he is 14kg.
- He loves to play with alphabets and he is learning spelling now.
- He is also picking up on chinese/mandarin.
As a parent's point of view:
- I think I can better manage the 2 boys alone. It really goes down to "Strategic Planning" and "Time Management". It can be done, with planning.
- Now then Mitch can better entertain himself with some biting toys sitting in his high chair, I can do some other chores if need to.
- Most of all, sometimes a little bit of crying is unavoidable. :)
And of course some pic to end the post.
He is weighing 9.5kg (yup, above 95 percentile) - this weight should be his 9th month weight in fact. He is "standing" tall at 69cm. Good, said the doctor. (which has now become our family doctor - Dr Choi from Prohealth Fernvale)
Initially we brought him to a Polyclinic for his vaccination, but after just one time, I had regretted. Even though it's heavily subsidised at polyclinics, but its not what I would want for my child. The jab was done as if Mitchell was part of a factory assembly line. It's like a Jab-n-Go thing. The doctor who was supposed to do assessment on Mitchell did it in a very "bo-chup" manner. I really don't like. Or maybe, Manfred had his vaccinations and assessments at a ptd PD - things were really different, so I was quite disappointed when I took Mitchell to a polyclinic. Ok, maybe I didn't manage my expectations well enough. I had never missed vaccinations for Manfred, as the PD's clinic would call and remind me. Yes, it wasn't cheap, but I have to say, "It's all worth it". But Mitchell, he was late for all his vaccinations. He should be half done with all his vaccinations by 7 months, but he is oh-so-late, sigh, partly also due to we had forgot about it, and no follow-up reminders from polyclinic.
So on Monday, I took Mitch and his health booklet to Prohealth Fernvale to see Dr Choi. He also commented that Mitch had missed quite a bit of vaccinations, but it's ok, we will make up for those we have missed. So he wrote me a schedule like what vaccinations and when Mitch would be taking, moving forward. At least it gives me, as a mummy some consolation and assurance. And the best thing was Dr Choi was so gentle with the jab, Mitch didn't whine a bit. Compared to the one he took at the polyclinic, he cried out loud - I know he would, when I saw how the 'missy' stabbed him. :( I remembered when Manfred had his jabs with Dr Lillian, he did NOT cry at any of his vaccinations. When he had his last dose of vaccination by 2 years old, it was done at polyclinic, he cried. :(
So, I conclude that I'm going to pump in more money for Mitch's vaccinations. He's going for jabs the in Jan and Feb to make up for those he had missed.
And for Mitch's growth update:
- He can sit for a short while before falling sideway. The doc did mention that bigger size babies tend to take a little longer for them to really sit by themselves. ;P
- He is taking cereal daily 2x a day.
- He can read our lips and make the sound we are making (sometimes)
- Not crawling, but definitely rolling and turning. He fell from our bed last night! Mike said he had placed him in the centre of the bed, and he was on the floor yelling in like 3 minutes. :( I told this incident would not happen again after Manfred's roll off the bed incident 2 years ago, I was wrong. It happened AGAIN.
- And we are putting him in the high chair when we have dinner outside, he is happier compared to sitting in the pram.
- And then I just realised that Mitch is a kangaroo baby more than a pram baby. I could go gai-gai for hours when he is in a carrier. But when he is in the pram, he whines, shouts, cries. OMG. When in the carrier, he would sleep when he is tired and just cling close to me when he is awake. :) My lil koala baby.
- He's still taking morning nap (right after his morning feed), then one more in the noon, and a short one in the early evening.
- By the way, Dr has just diagnosed him with sensitive nose, so would be better off without aircon. But coz Mitch sleeps in his zippy every night and nap, it would be too warm to sleep without aircon, so I'm still thinking how.
- He bites anything. ANYTHING AT ALL.
- Teething crankiness!
- The throw and knock anything stage is here, by the way.
As for Manfred's development (29 months):
- He is trying to speak in full sentences
- I'm trying to teach him Cantonese too, i hope he can at least learn ONE dialect.
- He is definitely in his terrible twos stage but he can be absolutely adoring sometimes. Sigh. This contradicting stage
- The hard approach doesn't work on him, the soft approach is more useful. But having said that, it means PATIENCE.
- He loves chicken rice, as much as he LOVES ANIMALS. Im pretty impressed that he knows 90% of the animals in his animal book and he LOVES the zoo of course. We could just sign up for zoo members soon~!
- Weight wise, he is 14kg.
- He loves to play with alphabets and he is learning spelling now.
- He is also picking up on chinese/mandarin.
As a parent's point of view:
- I think I can better manage the 2 boys alone. It really goes down to "Strategic Planning" and "Time Management". It can be done, with planning.
- Now then Mitch can better entertain himself with some biting toys sitting in his high chair, I can do some other chores if need to.
- Most of all, sometimes a little bit of crying is unavoidable. :)
And of course some pic to end the post.
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